Saturday, September 23, 2017

Full Moon Ritual, October 5, 2017


Come celebrate the Full Moon in Ares— prime time for
re-awakening, re-igniting, and re-imagining ourselves;
to stand in our fullness and in the light of our own truths;
to release the chaos and projections of others
so that we may be at our strongest as we show up
for sacred activism and service.


Shamanic Practitioners and Interfaith/Interspiritual Ministers Holly Rowley and Riva Danzig invite you to join them in Ceremony to invoke the power and support of the first Full Moon of the Autumn season. Come stand in the light of this Harvest Moon.
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Date: Thursday, October 5, 2017

Time: Gather between 7:30 and 8:pm at the foot of the step street at Bailey Avenue & Van Cortlandt Park South (Riva will email details when you RSVP, or enter the above cross-streets into a GPS or Mapping app). We will be walking as a group into a wooded area of the park and ask that you arrive promptly. The Ritual will last till about 10pm.

What to Bring: Your whole selves and begin to think about what intention you’re bringing to the ritual. Also, things to leave as offerings to the water and the moon: flowers, herbs, fruit, veggies, seeds and grain, high quality chocolate, bread, essential oils.

Please consider a love offering for the officiants, as you can.

For More Info: Contact Riva: rev@rivadanzig.com, 917-602-4588, or
Holly: revholly@yahoo.com, 330-842-1350.

NOTE: Please RSVP so we’ll know to expect you at the gathering place.


Photo Credit: Full Moon over Van Cortlandt Park Lake, June 2017, by Holly Rowley

Saturday, November 5, 2016

Lectio Divina – Autumn 2016


Back in my Seminary days, we were taught a practice called "Lectio Divina" (divine reading). Wikipedia describes it as "a traditional Benedictine practice of scriptural reading, meditation and prayer intended to promote communion with God and to increase the knowledge of God's Word." At my interfaith Seminary where we were exploring the Oneness of all things, of all beings, of all spiritualities, "scripture" covered many sorts of texts. Communion with the Divine could be achieved through a Rumi poem, a talmudic midrash, a passage from Bird by Bird, or a Marvel comic, if we were reading it right.

Since February 2016, I've been practicing Lectio Divina, although I hadn't realized it until yesterday. Each morning, I read an entry from a daily Mussar reader, a pair of verses from the Dhammapada, and finally, a poem from Seasons of the Witch: Poetry and Songs to the Goddess by Patricia Monaghan. This last book I added only recently. I'm not even sure what drew me to it, though I've always loved Monaghan's work. Maybe, as we move into the later fall and coming winter, and as we inch closer to this extremely charged, consequential, and triggering presidential election, reading poems organized around the seasons and focussed on The Goddess seemed like it might help clear away some of the dread and anxiety growing in me as the weeks have passed. Yesterday, the poem I read lifted my spirits and settled my nerves. The poem left me feeling grounded and ready for whatever the coming days will bring us. It also shone a light on the true nature of this practice I've been doing for nearly 9 months. Somehow, this monastic tradition of lectio divina had found its way into my life. I can hardly imagine starting my day without it.

I want to offer the poem here. May it lift the spirits of those of you reading it who might also be struggling to stay in balance and hold a sense of equanimity during these unsettled times.



The Goddess Instruction Manual, Part Three:
How to Make Love like Oshun


1. Begin with fingertips.
Read every burning tree,
red fruit, blue stone.
Move on to wind and water.
Then seasons, futures.

2. When adept, try this:
Read the body. First your own.
Its history and poetry,
Its intimate geographies.
Keep eyes closed.
See with touch.
Memorize yourself.

3. Touch each other.

4. Continue as above.

5. Continue as above.

6. The world, the eyes
open. O wonder!
O newness!
O fragrent air!
O blue sound!
O body radiant
with imperfection!

7. Everything should be
liquid at this point.
Liquid and golden.
Dive and plunge.
Swim. Frolic.

8. Something 
shattering:
crystal,
purple glass,
dark blue porcelain.
Break apart.

9. Dissolve in light.
Dissolve into pale stars.

10. Keep looking,
Keep touching.

11. The word is:
yes.
The world is:
yes.

12. Continue as above.

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And together, let us say, Amen. May Oshun, the Yoruba Orisha of the river and fresh water, of luxury and pleasure, sexuality and fertility, beauty and love, connected to destiny and divination, bless us with the resources in all realms to create bright, abundant, flowing, love-filled lives. #imwithher #lovetrumpshate #vote

Friday, November 13, 2015

Puzzling Over Mama

It's Thursday evening. I'm usually 45 minutes into my Anthropology of Media class, but I was given a welcome gift of having my class cancelled. While I regret the illness of the professor which caused the cancellation, the unplanned-for bit of space/time allowed me to go and do a good food shopping. I've been running on empty all week because of the non-stop work schedule, which includes copious amounts of reading for this class. I've been eating take-out for days and days!

As I was putting away the fresh food, I discovered a bag of brussel sprouts. It's what was left of a big stalk of them I'd bought at the last of the season's pop-up farmers' market that comes each Wednesday from May to early November. The brussel sprouts needed cooking and so, as I write this, I'm roasting them and they'll be the centerpiece of a dinner whose other parts I have yet to devise!

The farmers' market sets up in the little playground I used to take my now 30-something kids to when they were toddlers. My neighborhood, which I love for its urban beauty and relative quiet, has many such reminders of the passage of time and the stages of life. This very park is the one where my mother enjoyed sitting when she could still be social; and which she could look out on from her kitchen window -- watching the kids playing. She loved that kitchen window. Now someone else's mom has taken up her position there. A good legacy, I hope.

Will my mother's death ever stop puzzling me? On my next birthday -- at the end of November, it will be 6 months to the day she died. It will be the first birthday I've ever had without her in the world. Not that I've spent each one of my soon to be 67 birthdays in her presence, but it means something to me -- this first one, out here on my own. There'll be many firsts in the 12 months following her death. Thanksgiving, Chanukah, New Year's Eve, and oh yes, Mothers' Day.

Mama, c. 1954


I don't remember a time when I wasn't sad or angry at how it felt like she never loved me, how I always seemed to be disappointing her, how she was sure I didn't love her -- though I did. So here's the puzzling thing: as my brussel sprouts roast, as this early darkness turns to night, as I wonder what else I'll have for my dinner, I notice that my heart hurts and that I miss my mother, who loved brussel sprouts and probably, in her fashion, loved me.

I think perhaps missing the woman who birthed me shouldn't come as such a big surprise. Her body housed my body. I suspect that that right there is a forever-and-ever bond that psychotherapy doesn't really need to "fix." Even if our lives together went badly from my very first breath, here I am nearly 7 decades on, relatively healthy, with wonderful kids, friends, and talents. Somewhere, being grateful for my life got lost in a shuffle of what it seemed she wanted in return for giving me that life. But I am grateful. And I love her. And it's puzzling.

My prayer is that Mother-love becomes simple for me and for so many others who struggle with it; may we be able to simply honor these beings who gave us birth -- whether they raised us well or not, whether they raised us at all. I mean to walk the rest of my days in a way that honors the memory of my mother. May she rest in peace, if there's a place of awareness where she is now, may she feel my love for her.



Wednesday, December 17, 2014

The Horse I Rode In On

Recently, at a private session with an extraordinary healer and teacher of Energy Medicine, I expressed my frustration at how much, after a lifetime of personal work of all kinds, I still suffer. For all the healing work I’ve done, I can, on a daily basis, fall into states of self-hatred that seem like it’s all there is, was, and will ever be. And while I know this is a feature of clinical depression, I am remarkably high-functioning for that to be an accurate or complete diagnosis. It’s as if it’s my default setting — triggered by the slightest breeze that might ruffle the forward movement of my day…. letting the oatmeal catch, not getting the laundry done, finding an hour has passed when all I meant to do was glance at Facebook; or, if nothing in my local life gets me there, thinking about the rich getting richer, about war, global catastrophes, my mother, and all the other mothers and fathers, in dementia. There is always something.

My teacher said to me, “Riva, you came in on the Suffering Line.” Oooof. The feeling of a blow to the solar plexus, but then, the exhale of recognition, the light of understanding, of hearing Truth. I understood her to be saying that it’s my design to see through the lens of suffering and that it’s my lineage, it’s in my DNA, the collective memory to which I am most powerfully connected. And then she asked me this: “So who are you?” Typically, this sort of question brings me to a deer-in-the-headlights state of being. Frozen terror. She spoke some more, describing her own experience — who she is in relation to her lineage story. She said, “All those who came in after me on the same line as I did are able to change the story of that line because I did.” And then, with an easy certainty that is also ferocious and always gets my attention, she said, “I did that.”

What we do and who we are as individuals impacts everything.

For all my mystical ways and my belief in magic and the unseen, my habit of mind when I feel “caught in the headlights” is to try to figure my way out of the oncoming danger with logic and linear thinking. In this case, I put together a quick analogy that looks something like this:
My teacher’s lineage is to who my teacher is as my lineage is to who I am.
Resting in the logic for a moment, a clever formula that I imagined would yield up a result and answer the question “Who am I?” without my having to suffer and struggle, got me unfrozen. I took a breath, still hoping that before I'd even taken in the full import of what I'd just learned, a story to match hers would emerge. 

And then she went on to say that we must start our healing work from where we actually are. “Most [which included me — and oh how I hate to be typical], begin at a distance from the true starting point. She said, “You must start from where you came in.” Reframing it for myself, I thought, “I must tend to the horse I rode in on,” and as a person with 4 planets, including Sun, Moon, Mercury, and Chiron, in Sagittarius, it’s really a pretty good way to frame it.

So, I make a beginning at learning who I am, having come in on the Suffering Line. What I know for sure is that I am a gifted and accomplished sufferer. And I am also someone who can see/feel when others are clinging to their suffering stories like it was the only thing keeping them tethered to life. Every once in a while, I am able to shine a light on that clinging in a way that helps them loosen their grip and to shift the suffering as only compassionate witness can. So there’s that. Without having consciously known why suffering is such familiar ground for me, this familiarity, coupled with a pretty good, if dark, sense of humor, has fueled the service I do for others. Perhaps, to begin at a slow, steady walk down this road, the better question might be “What are the gifts of my lineage?”

The horse I rode in on — the lineage of Suffering — when I bring my awareness to her, when I take time to tend to her coat, lovingly stroke her beautiful face, give her a tasty apple — I see she carries with her certain other qualities, easily missed in the compelling pain of the suffering. What I see is Survival, Empathy, and Compassion. I can work with this. I can honor the truth of the suffering. There is, after all, reason to suffer. But just maybe I can change my relationship to the suffering when I pay attention to its fruits. Taking a page from my Buddhist sisters and brothers: There is suffering. 
I am an expert. Now What? 
Mounting up and ready to ride!

Thursday, May 1, 2014

Getting Down To It

I'm amazed that nearly two years have passed since I've posted here. It felt like only a few months. This, it would seem, is how life goes. Just as my parents and grandparents said it would.... you blink at 17 and you're 65, which is exactly what's happened. At this writing, I'm 5 months into it. My half-fare metrocard that says "Senior Citizen" continues to shock me.

Me, 1964, sitting on the back bumper of (I'm told) a 1957 Pontiac, traveling down to D.C. for a March on Washington.
The Civil Rights Act was about to be passed, and I was about to turn 17.
But here's an interesting thing — an awareness bubbling up out of the turning of the years; the continued self-reflection; the growing belief in forces, powers, and Spirits greater than myself: when I am standing squarely in this moment, my relationship to time changes completely. There is no regret over roads taken or not, no concern about how long something will need in order to get accomplished, how even more senior I'll be by the time I get there. A life composed of one moment following the next becomes timeless. The more times I experience timelessness, the fewer times I'll blink my life away.

What I also know is that as often as others have said things like this — Thich Nhat Hanh, Pema Chodron, all the Wisdom teachers I've been privileged to read, hear, receive transmission from — until Present Moment awareness arrived in me, it was only ever an idea to me. Mostly, I thought it might be a bogus bit of mind game.

And so, I understand now that some things can be described, but "getting it" is a completely individual matter. What I know to say about this is that with just the right combination of books read, relationships had, diapers changed. bills paid, dishes washed, meals cooked or ordered, with just the perfect blend of miracles observed and experiences of wonder, well, one day you could be folding laundry, answering email, or cleaning the cat box and you realize you're neither old nor young. You simply are and you've gotten down to it — this business of being fully alive.

Bright blessings on that moment when it comes!

Friday, August 10, 2012

Travelogue

Halfway through the journey
You forget which way
You meant to go. You
Stop, and slowly turn toward
Each direction till you feel
A tug. It’s this way: North.
And though you dread the
Darkness and the cold,
You know by now it’s
Better just to listen when
You’re called.
You move through woods
And cities, mountain ranges,
Rivers, valleys, farms, and villages.
Through fox dens,
Rooftop pigeon coupes,
A beaver dam, McMansions,
Cardboard boxes. Till you reach
The Condor’s Cave where
You are welcomed.
You spread your wings
As though you’ve had them
All your life and you begin
The next leg of your journey
Soaring on­ the thermals,
So close to the sun you
Start to laugh because 
You worried you’d be cold.

Monday, June 18, 2012

A New Chapter

As happens every few years, I have been seized by the poetry muse. And so begins a new chapter. I'm happy as can be to be writing poems good and bad. Much gratitude to those people in my life who support me in this activity, along with my genes, which would predict that I'd be doing this. The poems have started to surprise me because the subjects are things I'd never have imagined would inspire me, like the following offering. Written today, it is the second poem I'm sharing in this space. Thanks in advance for reading it. xR


Breaking Training
With Gratitude to Julianne of Norwich,
Christian mystic, died c. 1416

I let myself believe
that all is well, and
all is well, and all
manner of thing
shall be well.
How contrary to
my upbringing,
this notion is,
as if to see
this troubled
world and feel
around inside it
for the healing,
is to be
boring, vapid,
born without
imagination, or,
worse yet,
a traitor to
my ancestors.
But I take comfort
in the certainty
that we mystics
have no need of
adjectives, and that my
Sister Julianne
would recognize me
not as Jewish mystic
but as a fellow celebrant
at the dawning of the day.